Connecting with Our Inner Parts
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

Connecting with Our Inner Parts

Accept your parts with grace and love so they can be heard and expressed more easily. Write out your questions and have compassion for the reply they give you.  Get curious about what you’re feeling and where it is coming from. 

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My Inner Child Riding Shotgun
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My Inner Child Riding Shotgun

We have the ability to call forth and connect with parts of ourselves. We can connect to whatever age is calling to us. One of our superpowers as humans is to put ourselves back in their shoes, see the circumstance from their eyes, and connect with the emotions that arose in those instances.

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Sober October: That’s a Wrap!
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

Sober October: That’s a Wrap!

The point is to see the effectiveness awareness can have on our urges and habits and how empowering it is to take responsibility for them. The point is that creating a gap in your drinking habits, no matter how seemingly small, can cause an exponential shift over time.

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Sober October: Ready. Set. Go!
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

Sober October: Ready. Set. Go!

Sober October isn’t about white-knuckling it from the First to the Thirty-first. Instead, it is an opportunity to learn about yourself and to reassess your relationship with alcohol.

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Climbing the Ladder of Our Beliefs
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Climbing the Ladder of Our Beliefs

Let’s look at our beliefs like a ladder. If we start with a thought like ‘we will always be a drinker,’ immediately trying to believe the opposite of this statement will seem absurd.

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A Sober Look at 40.
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A Sober Look at 40.

Forty marks a psychological and spiritual hinge point. Throughout world religions, forty represents and foretells transition, transformation, and becoming.

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Reframing Boredom
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Reframing Boredom

Let’s define briefly what boredom is, address some stigma around it, then offer a more positive and productive reframe from which to view it.

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Goodbye, Hello.
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Goodbye, Hello.

Even when I was at my lowest point with alcohol, lost in that dark inner forest, I knew there was a clearing somewhere and that it was up to me to reach it.

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Guiding Values
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

Guiding Values

In this article, I would like to explore the concept of values by determining what they are, why they are essential, and how to find yours.

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Will I Be Bored When I Quit Drinking?
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

Will I Be Bored When I Quit Drinking?

Alcohol dulls the edges of life and dilutes our adventure. Alcohol can distract and numb, but those effects aren’t specific in their focus. It numbs us to everything. I’d say alcohol plays a very big role in us being bored.

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Drinking Self, Sober Self, and Summer Vacation
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

Drinking Self, Sober Self, and Summer Vacation

Alcohol will be present at most summer gatherings. If you are trying to be alcohol-free, questions like the ones above will pop into your head, and desires to partake in boozy bacchanalias will arise. We would be fooling ourselves into thinking otherwise.

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“Do You Mind if I Have a Drink?”
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

“Do You Mind if I Have a Drink?”

Contrary to the media portrayal, many sober people are not constantly teetering between sobriety and utter debauchery. Many of us are liberated from the grip of alcohol, and it no longer has a hold on our minds.

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Rebuilding Trust in Our Sober Self with Micro Habits.
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

Rebuilding Trust in Our Sober Self with Micro Habits.

Making the firm commitment to stop drinking was a great first step, but was just the start. The rebuilding of my shattered self-trust and my inner kingdom was the next task. It had to be done if I was to get the most out of my alcohol-free journey.

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Kingdom of Characters
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

Kingdom of Characters

For anyone trying to change nonbeneficial habits like drinking, there can be a cacophony of inner voices, urges, and feelings that pull us in many directions. By giving them names, forms, and personalities, I have found that I can better talk with and understand them.

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