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This isn’t going to be easy, but no true adventure ever is.
What would it mean to be able to calm the constantly raging battle of thoughts and emotions within you?
You want to stop the battle in your head, be proud of who you are, and find inner peace. But obstacles keep standing in your way…
Suppressing anger and frustration
Struggling to express emotions
Bearing the weight of obligations
Worry and anxiety
All these things turn the inner battle into an all-out war.
I hear you.
Like so many people, I felt ashamed that I couldn't just flip a switch and get these things under control.
My life felt chaotic and messy. I felt like I was being controlled by swings of emotion that left me lost in a dark place.
I used alcohol to numb the inadequacy I felt, cope with unresolved pain, and find relief from the fight in my head.
Cole is a skilled coach, passionate about coaching and is highly recommended
Cat P.
The work you will do is enlightening, and Cole is perceptive and supportive, he shows genuine interest and care about well-being.
Olwen D.
Cole is a skilled coach, passionate about coaching and is highly recommended
Cat P.
The work you will do is enlightening, and Cole is perceptive and supportive, he shows genuine interest and care about well-being.
Olwen D.
What I didn't realize—and what most folks don't realize—is that our relationship with alcohol masks deeper wounds.
That's why my approach to alcohol coaching isn't just about kicking a habit or living with a disease.
The work we do with Internal Family Systems goes much deeper…
You will learn to connect to your true Self, with its innate calmness, courage, and curiosity as your guide and putting you back in your rightful place of power.
You will access your own capability and confidence. This will allow you to explore your inner terrain and form relationships with the conflicting parts of yourself.
What I didn't realize—and what most folks don't realize—is that our relationship with alcohol masks deeper wounds.
That's why my approach to alcohol coaching isn't just about kicking a habit or living with a disease.
The work we do with Internal Family Systems goes much deeper…
You will learn to connect to your true Self, with its innate calmness, courage, and curiosity as your guide and putting you back in your rightful place of power.
You will access your own capability and confidence. This will allow you to explore your inner terrain and form relationships with the conflicting parts of yourself.
This IFS coaching program will not tell you to “get in control!”
Instead, you will be coached on how to become more Self-led in order to connect with the part of you that benefits from drinking.
You will learn how that drinking part of you is trying to help.
The real value is…
You start befriending, not fighting, yourself—even if you are still drinking.
As that inner relationship forms, you will begin to understand the role alcohol plays in your life and discover that you can let go of that role.
Once that need is healed and the role released, the behavior changes.
Right off the bat, Cole offered a safe place to be honest and vulnerable, which, in turn, offers a safe place to start a recovering, learning, and growing journey.
Chris J.
What I’ve grown to appreciate is that it was less the tactical response techniques that I learned from Cole, and more the change in perspective to look at the situation differently or you could say, realistically
Kevin C.
Right off the bat, Cole offered a safe place to be honest and vulnerable, which, in turn, offers a safe place to start a recovering, learning, and growing journey.
Chris J.
What I’ve grown to appreciate is that it was less the tactical response techniques that I learned from Cole, and more the change in perspective to look at the situation differently or you could say, realistically
Kevin C.
How can working with a coach change your life?
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How can working with a coach change your life?
Schedule a free call with me and start that conversation.
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So, what is Internal Family Systems?
Internal Family Systems (IFS) recognizes and normalizes the idea that we are made up of many different and often conflicting parts. These parts can take on different roles.
The goal of IFS is to find inner balance and peace by connecting people with their core Self and becoming Self-led.
The Self is like the wise and calm center of who you are. When you're connected to your Self, you can understand and heal the different parts of you that might be in conflict or hurting.
The Self helps you stay balanced and guides you to make healthier choices, leading to a more peaceful and authentic life.
This style of coaching involves:
Getting to know the different parts of yourself
Understanding their roles
Healing any emotional pain they might hold.
This understanding brings enlightenment and knowledge about your inner workings.
By doing this, you can become more self-aware and compassionate towards your parts and live more authentically, which leads to lasting personal growth and emotional well-being.
Even though this is complex, Cole makes it easy to understand and it makes sense. Cole is a fantastic coach. He makes you feel comfortable and at ease.
Anna H.
After experiencing some parts communicating and even interacting with each other, I am more confident that this is a direction I want to pursue. It has brought good insights even though I’ve just started doing the work.
Roberta C.
Even though this is complex, Cole makes it easy to understand and it makes sense. Cole is a fantastic coach. He makes you feel comfortable and at ease.
Anna H.
After experiencing some parts communicating and even interacting with each other, I am more confident that this is a direction I want to pursue. It has brought good insights even though I’ve just started doing the work.
Roberta C.
Would you like to know more about IFS coaching?
Check out this episode of the Present and Sober podcast from March of 2024!
I had the opportunity to share my story and talk about the power of the IFS model.
Our Parts and Their Roles
Below I have created an infographic that gives you an overview of the basic structure of our parts and the roles that they can take on within our system.
This is by no means comprehensive but it does give you some idea of the parts that we may work with during our sessions.
Managers:
They are preemptive in managing our day-to-day lives.
They attempt to control our internal and external world.
Can appear as critical, berating, hypervigilant, unyielding, perfectionistic, caretaking, planning, procrastinating, striving, or people-pleasing.
Firefighters:
They are reactive, dramatic, and impulsive.
They are concerned only with the present moment.
They respond to immediate threats with little regard for the rest of the system.
Can appear as rage, addiction, self-harm, overworking, bingeing, overexercising, dissociation, or obsessions.
Exiles:
They are banished within our system because of their deep pain.
They are often younger parts that are stuck in the past.
They carry burdens from past trauma, such as worthlessness, shame, feeling unlovable, dependency, and abandonment.
Self:
The undamaged, whole, good, and pure essence of every human.
Self is:
Calm
Clear
Curious
Compassionate
Courageous
Confident
Creative
Connected
The Self is like the sun. It may be obscured, but it is always there.
Cole demonstrates the 8 C’s of the Self in his coaching. Through his calmness and confidence, two of the ‘C’s’, I could more easily access the calmness and confidence within myself. This allowed me to look deeper, and accept all of my parts, even if they were ashamed and fearful.
Julana H.
This approach, specifically Cole’s teaching, helped me relinquish a lot of shame and guilt I’ve been carrying for a long time. This tiny bit of surrender has allowed me to broaden my perspective - instead of living in self-blame 24/7 there is a tiny little opening where I can clearly see how my parts are doing their absolute best to protect me. I am getting to know these parts, and I’ve got to be honest... it’s kinda fun getting to meet them all as individuals.
Jody C.
Cole demonstrates the 8 C’s of the Self in his coaching. Through his calmness and confidence, two of the ‘C’s’, I could more easily access the calmness and confidence within myself. This allowed me to look deeper, and accept all of my parts, even if they were ashamed and fearful.
Julana H.
This approach, specifically Cole’s teaching, helped me relinquish a lot of shame and guilt I’ve been carrying for a long time. This tiny bit of surrender has allowed me to broaden my perspective - instead of living in self-blame 24/7 there is a tiny little opening where I can clearly see how my parts are doing their absolute best to protect me. I am getting to know these parts, and I’ve got to be honest... it’s kinda fun getting to meet them all as individuals.
Jody C.
All Coaching Packages Include the Following Features:
Complimentary 30-minute Exploratory Call
Our first call is all about getting to know each other and deciding whether coaching is a good fit for where you are right now—and whether we're a good fit to work together.
In this free half-hour session, you'll have a chance to share more about your current situation and what you hope to achieve with coaching.
I'll answer all your questions and address any concerns you may have about coaching.
Together, we'll create an action plan to reach your goals and redefine your relationship with drinking.
Weekly 1:1 Coaching Session
We’ll meet via Zoom weekly for a one-hour, 1:1 coaching session.
Each week, we'll build on your progress, consistently moving the needle towards achieving freedom with alcohol.
This is your time! During your session, you'll have my undivided attention.
While each session is different, you can expect conversations around subjects like:
Accessing and building relationships with the parts that need your attention.
Healing parts that hold painful beliefs.
Your wins and stumbles with alcohol in the past week
Insights or 'aha' moments that help you reframe how you see your relationship with drinking.
4-IFS: Foundations of Inner Discovery Course
As a 1:1 client, you’ll also get free access to my 4-week Internal Family Systems (IFS) course.
This program introduces you to the IFS model, giving you the tools to explore your inner world, heal, and gain deeper self-awareness.
With guided meditations, practical exercises, and ongoing support, the course complements your coaching experience and enhances your personal growth.
Explorer’s Gear Guide
As a private coaching client, you have access to my ever-expanding Content Library. The library equips you with tangible tools to help you navigate your goals and challenges.
This is lifetime access for you, meaning you will always be able to hone your skills and develop new ones long after our coaching relationship has ended.
Inside, you'll find:
Worksheets and guides that offer tactical solutions for connecting with your parts, navigating emotions, and gaining clarity.
Meditations to facilitate deeper inner connection, healing, and perspective-shifting epiphanies.
Presentations to help you better understand the methodology of your work.
Email and Voxer Access
Your coaching experience is about creating BIG transformation. From week to week, you'll be astounded at the shifts, realizations, and leaps forward you experience.
So that you are fully support you during this season of transformation, you'll have access to ongoing coaching via email and Voxer.
Voxer is an app similar to a walkie-talkie, allowing us to have real-time conversations between sessions at the click of a button!
This is your space to get feedback and share what's shifting for you between weekly coaching sessions so you can build momentum and overcome challenges as they arise.
Coaching Packages
Whether you want to moderate, abstain, or just be able to drink a glass of wine at a wedding without it turning into a week-long bender, there is a coaching package that is right for you.
The value of these sessions is not in their quantity but in the depths to which you go.
This approach normalizes the inner struggle of conflicting emotions. Creating mental and emotional space will prevent you from being overwhelmed and embroiled in chaos. This simple shift paves the way for a profound transformation.
8 Sessions
Looking to get started with IFS? Eight sessions are the perfect starting point to see how coaching and IFS can transform your relationship with alcohol.
In your eight sessions, you'll…
Accessing and building relationships with the parts that need your attention.
Healing parts that hold painful beliefs.
Your wins and stumbles with alcohol in the past week
Insights or 'aha' moments that help you reframe how you see your relationship with drinking.
12 Sessions
Twelve sessions begins to map out your inner terrain and access the Self, creating the space for opposing parts to be understood while deepening your relationship with them.
With twelve sessions you will gain…
Calmness in the midst of all the chaos.
Confidence to explore deeper into your inner world.
Clarity for to find your way forward.
16 Sessions
It’s common to want more guidance when getting to know our parts. This offering is for those who are committed to understanding their parts and becoming Self-led.
By sixteen sessions you will have...
Courage to witness your distress.
Creativity to find solutions to inner issues.
Connectedness through a Self-led system.
8 Sessions
Looking to get started with IFS? Eight sessions are the perfect starting point to see how coaching and IFS can transform your relationship with alcohol.
In your eight sessions, you'll…
Accessing and building relationships with the parts that need your attention.
Healing parts that hold painful beliefs.
Your wins and stumbles with alcohol in the past week
Insights or 'aha' moments that help you reframe how you see your relationship with drinking.
12 Sessions
Twelve sessions begins to map out your inner terrain and access the Self, creating the space for opposing parts to be understood while deepening your relationship with them.
With twelve sessions you will gain…
Calmness in the midst of all the chaos.
Confidence to explore deeper into your inner world.
Clarity for to find your way forward.
16 Sessions
It’s common to want more guidance when getting to know our parts. This offering is for those who are committed to understanding their parts and becoming Self-led.
By sixteen sessions you will have...
Courage to witness your distress.
Creativity to find solutions to inner issues.
Connectedness through a Self-led system.
Certifications:
Certified This Naked Mind Coach
Full-time Staff Coach for This Naked Mind
IFS Institute: Coaching for Self-leadership Training
IFS Integrative Somatic Parts Work Training
IFSCA Stepping Stones Program
IFSCA Stepping Deeper Program
IFSCA Support Staff
Certifications:
Certified This Naked Mind Coach
Full-time Staff Coach for This Naked Mind
IFS Institute: Coaching for Self-leadership Training
IFS Integrative Somatic Parts Work Training
IFSCA Stepping Stones Program
IFSCA Stepping Deeper Program
IFSCA Support Staff
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All Rights Reserved.