My Inner Child Riding Shotgun
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

My Inner Child Riding Shotgun

We have the ability to call forth and connect with parts of ourselves. We can connect to whatever age is calling to us. One of our superpowers as humans is to put ourselves back in their shoes, see the circumstance from their eyes, and connect with the emotions that arose in those instances.

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Sober October: That’s a Wrap!
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

Sober October: That’s a Wrap!

The point is to see the effectiveness awareness can have on our urges and habits and how empowering it is to take responsibility for them. The point is that creating a gap in your drinking habits, no matter how seemingly small, can cause an exponential shift over time.

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Sober October: Week 2!
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

Sober October: Week 2!

Our limbic brain- the older part of our minds- is the master at seeking comfort and avoiding pain. When we get into a place of comfort and familiarity, even if it harms us, our subconscious will pull out all the tricks to keep us in that comfortable state.

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Sober October: Ready. Set. Go!
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

Sober October: Ready. Set. Go!

Sober October isn’t about white-knuckling it from the First to the Thirty-first. Instead, it is an opportunity to learn about yourself and to reassess your relationship with alcohol.

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Climbing the Ladder of Our Beliefs
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Climbing the Ladder of Our Beliefs

Let’s look at our beliefs like a ladder. If we start with a thought like ‘we will always be a drinker,’ immediately trying to believe the opposite of this statement will seem absurd.

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Reframing Boredom
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Reframing Boredom

Let’s define briefly what boredom is, address some stigma around it, then offer a more positive and productive reframe from which to view it.

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Goodbye, Hello.
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

Goodbye, Hello.

Even when I was at my lowest point with alcohol, lost in that dark inner forest, I knew there was a clearing somewhere and that it was up to me to reach it.

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Drinking Self, Sober Self, and Summer Vacation
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

Drinking Self, Sober Self, and Summer Vacation

Alcohol will be present at most summer gatherings. If you are trying to be alcohol-free, questions like the ones above will pop into your head, and desires to partake in boozy bacchanalias will arise. We would be fooling ourselves into thinking otherwise.

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Kingdom of Characters
Cole Harvey Cole Harvey

Kingdom of Characters

For anyone trying to change nonbeneficial habits like drinking, there can be a cacophony of inner voices, urges, and feelings that pull us in many directions. By giving them names, forms, and personalities, I have found that I can better talk with and understand them.

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